My husband and I divorced. It was not hateful. We just should not be married any more.
The thing that many found unusual was that we each remained close to the other's families. My husband often visited my mother. I was always close to his mother.
He called my mother Ma. I called his mother Mom. I only wish I could have been as wise as she was.
Mom liked tapioca pudding. None of the family would eat it except me. Whenever we visited she would make some just for me.
Mom and I had the same feelings about family. Family members should make the effort to be a part of the family.
Many years after she died I was having lunch with my sister-in-law. The topic of conversation went to Mom as it usually did.
I knew Mom had been hurt because I never sent my kids to spend the summer with her. I knew my kids. I called them "leg-children" because they made sure I was close by. They would have stayed as long as I was near. Otherwise they would have cried the whole time.
My sister-in-law laughed. She said they were the same way.
It is funny how patterns repeat.
Patterns copied.
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They repeated.
I have to admit that I miss the days my little ones clung to my legs. Alas they outgrew me.
DeleteYou knew your children best. I'm sure your MIL understood.
ReplyDeleteI am not sure she did. Because she loved them so much she assumed they would be happy to stay. They loved her too but they would not have stayed.
DeleteSounds like you had a great mother in law! I had a good one too. I am grateful.
ReplyDeleteI loved and admired her. She had such wisdom and strength.
DeleteLuckily you kept your breakup on such a friendly level,
ReplyDeletehow good for your children!!
Surely the patterns repeat!!
I was lucky enough to marry into a wonderful family.
DeleteThis level of maturity inspires me about your part of land dear Emma
ReplyDeleteCouple don’t turn enemies after divorce like here sadly
You certainly had understanding MIL ,she loved you despite your children didn’t stay with her,it shows you both were wise and caring
I loved both my mother-in-law and father-in-law. I did not even hate my husband. He helped me to have 4 beautiful intelligent children. Who cannot appreciate that.
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