Tuesday, April 25, 2017
We have yet another uncle I did not know well. He did not live to far from us but we did not visit back and forth.
My grandmother did not visit him either and he did not visit her. For some reason Grandma did not like his wife. She never had anything pleasant to say about her.
My uncle had three sons. They are all close to my father's age. I'm not sure I ever even saw one of them.
Uncle Willis was a fireman. It was his life's work. Because of his hard work and love of his job he eventually became the fire chief of his suburb of a large city in the area.
I remember reading about him in the paper once. He demonstrated that an oil fire could be extinguished with water if other methods were not available.
My grandmother had cancer. Uncle Willis and Aunt Irma were the ones who offered to take care of her while she recovered from surgery.
When the doctors went in to try to remove the cancer Grandma was so full of cancer there was nothing they could do for her. They simply closed the incision. When she was ready to leave the hospital she wen to stay with my aunt and uncle.
Both my aunt and uncle had back problems. It was not easy for them to take care of Grandma but they did.
Toward the end another aunt and uncle went to visit Grandma. Aunt Irma mentioned that Grandma would not eat.
My other uncle became furious. He screamed at her that she had to feed her no matter what. Force it down her throat if she had to.
The following day Aunt Irma called the doctor. She was worried that she was not taking proper care of Grandma.
The doctor told her that she was doing a good job. He said that very often terminal patients have no appetite, If she wanted something to eat by all means give her something. Otherwise let her alone. Ice chips and sips of fluid were the most important.
We went to visit. It was to see Grandma before she died. She really did not know we were there. Except for my youngest sister who was her favorite.
My sister was only 4 years old but she seemed to understand that Grandma needed her. She sat with her all day holding her hand.
Grandma died that night after we left.
My aunt and uncle were left to take care of all the necessary things one needs to do after a death.
All from the ones that Grandma had no time for. I respected them for that.
I learned that you never know who will be important in your life or why. It is best to treat everyone with kindness. You may someday need a kindness from them.